I missed my weekly post last week because I decided to make some changes on my blog and it took a lot longer that I expected at first. You see, I’m a perfectionist! Everything has to be perfect. Otherwise, I am not satisfied, and as far back as I can remember, I have always been this way.
However, I made some progress over the years, and I worked really hard to achieve that. I’m not as obsessed with perfection as before, but I still exhibit some behaviors of a perfectionist once in a while. And that’s what happened to me last week. I had to finish the changes that I started.
What drove me to write about perfectionism
And that’s what drove me to write this post. I was looking for a topic for my next post, and I was thinking that if I hadn’t been so obsessed with finishing the modifications on my blog, I would have written my blog post on time. And that’s when it hit me, why not write a post about perfectionism?
This one hits very close to home, and I like to write about things that I experience or experienced. I find topics much easier to write about when you can relate to them. When it’s personal, you can include some of your experiences in the post.
What is perfectionism?
According to The Free Dictionary, the definition of perfectionism is this:
A personality trait manifested by the rejection of personal achievements falling short of perfection, often leading to distress and self-condemnation.”
This definition is quite discouraging, but it’s possible to change this definition for a much more positive one. Perfectionism isn’t all bad. There’s a good side to it that we can exploit to our advantage.
The good and the bad side of perfectionism
Unfortunately, nowadays perfectionism is often seen as a negative trait. It’s true that us perfectionists tend to obsess with doing a flawless job. It’s also true that it can be stressful as well as exhausting always to double and even triple check our work.
But being perfectionist doesn’t always lead to distress and self-condemnation. If used the right way, it can be empowering. Being a perfectionist is to be more efficient and to make fewer mistakes. And it’s also a good thing for others, for example, co-workers. You can definitely count on a perfectionist to do a flawless job.
Learning to accept that you cannot be perfect all the time
Learning to recognize that everybody makes mistakes can be beneficial for the perfectionist. When you make mistakes, you learn from them and grow as a person. You also learn that the world doesn’t end when you make mistakes and that people are much more understanding than you think. We’re so afraid to disappoint!
Furthermore, learning to accept to be flawed will lower your anxiety. Because let me tell you that trying to do a perfect job all the time can be very tiring as well as stressful. It can lead to chronic anxiety, depression and even OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).
Perfectionism: is it a good or a bad thing?
When I decided to write about perfectionism, I just knew there would be a few infographics online about this. And I was right! I found the perfect (see my pun here?) infographic, created by the team at EssayTigers.com, that explains really well what is perfectionism.
This essay writing service company has put together some great information about being a perfectionist and how it has a good as well as a bad side. There’s even some advice on how to control this and change the way we think. Here is what you’ll discover on the infographic:
- Perfectionism is a personality trait
- What does it sound like?
- Good side of perfectionism
- Bad side of perfectionism
- Types of perfectionism
- How do you become a “healthy” perfectionism?
I’m sure that this infographic will help you understand better what it means to be a perfectionist. You’ll see that it’s not all bad and that a lot of good can come from being a perfectionist. And if you’re a perfectionist like me, you’ll see that you can learn to control it.
|Courtesy of: EssayTigers|
When I was young, I had some very bad perfectionist behaviors. I could accept criticism, I blame myself for any mistakes I made, and I obsessed about those mistakes, even small ones. It took a long time before I changed my way of thinking.
When I was studying nursing about 10 years ago, I had some very tough love from a few of my teachers, and it changed me. I finally saw the light. Like I said earlier, I still exhibit some perfectionist behaviors, like last week, but mostly, I am much better at handling mistakes and criticism. The bottom line is that it’s possible to change the way we behave, with hard work and a lot of willpower.
Over to you
Are you a perfectionist? If you are, do you think it’s a bad or a good thing? Do you control it? Please, share your thoughts in the comment box below, I’d love to hear what you think!