So many of us enter a conversation wanting to pour our own opinion on the other person, and we forget to really listen to what they have to say. We are so busy thinking about the next thing to say that we don’t hear the point that the other person is trying to get across. Even worst, sometimes we don’t even let them finish!
We all did it at some point or another
You’re having a conversation with one of your friends, and she says something that brings an idea to your head. You don’t want to forget it, so you stop listening to the rest of your friend’s words. At one point, you can’t contain yourself, and you interrupt her mid-sentence to tell her your thought.
I’m sure that you already did it! Don’t be shy. You can say it. It’s ok!
And I have a confession to make. I do it too! Not as often as when I was young, but I still do it sometimes. So you see, you’re not alone!
But even though most people do it, doesn’t mean it’s ok. Actually, it’s definitely not! That’s why we have to learn to listen better.
When I was younger, I didn’t listen very well. I just wanted to get my message across and never really listen to the other person. But I learned with time, wisdom and a lot of practice to listen to the other person in front of me because I understood that their thoughts and ideas are as important as ours. Maybe even more so!
Saying that we have to listen better is easier said that done
Saying that we have to listen better is easy, but applying it can be quite difficult when you don’t know how. And even if we try to change our bad habits, it can be easy after a while to fall back into old habits without even noticing it.
And because of all the technology’s convenience, people don’t talk to each other anymore; they TEXT each other. It’s quick and easy!! So it’s not surprising to hear that 1/3 of American teenagers send more than a 100 texts a day. Also, it seems that they are more likely to text their friends than talk to them face to face. That’s pretty terrible!
How to listen better and have amazing conversations
That’s why these tips included in the video below can be a great guideline to follow. In this TEDTalk video, long-time radio host Celeste Headlee talks about 10 basic rules that can definitely transform you into an amazing listener.
She shares with us how to listen to others and be more present in the conversation. Her speech is really interesting. Time flew by really quickly and, in my opinion, everything she said makes perfect sense. But don’t take my word for it, check it out yourself!
Over to you
Are you someone who listens pretty well or do you think that you need to start listening to others better? And what did you think of the video? Do you agree with what Celeste Headlee had to say? Do you plan on following her tips? Please, let me know what you think!