10 Basic Rules To Help You Listen Better And Have Amazing Conversations (VIDEO)

So many of us enter a conversation wanting to pour our own opinion on the other person, and we forget to really listen to what they have to say. We are so busy thinking about the next thing to say that we don’t hear the point that the other person is trying to get across. Even worst, sometimes we don’t even let them finish!

We all did it at some point or another

You’re having a conversation with one of your friends, and she says something that brings an idea to your head. You don’t want to forget it, so you stop listening to the rest of your friend’s words. At one point, you can’t contain yourself, and you interrupt her mid-sentence to tell her your thought.

I’m sure that you already did it! Don’t be shy. You can say it. It’s ok!

And I have a confession to make. I do it too! Not as often as when I was young, but I still do it sometimes. So you see, you’re not alone!

But even though most people do it, doesn’t mean it’s ok. Actually, it’s definitely not! That’s why we have to learn to listen better.

When I was younger, I didn’t listen very well. I just wanted to get my message across and never really listen to the other person. But I learned with time, wisdom and a lot of practice to listen to the other person in front of me because I understood that their thoughts and ideas are as important as ours. Maybe even more so!

Saying that we have to listen better is easier said that done

Saying that we have to listen better is easy, but applying it can be quite difficult when you don’t know how. And even if we try to change our bad habits, it can be easy after a while to fall back into old habits without even noticing it.

And because of all the technology’s convenience, people don’t talk to each other anymore; they TEXT each other. It’s quick and easy!! So it’s not surprising to hear that 1/3 of American teenagers send more than a 100 texts a day. Also, it seems that they are more likely to text their friends than talk to them face to face. That’s pretty terrible!

Stephen R. Covey quote

How to listen better and have amazing conversations

That’s why these tips included in the video below can be a great guideline to follow. In this TEDTalk video, long-time radio host Celeste Headlee talks about 10 basic rules that can definitely transform you into an amazing listener.

She shares with us how to listen to others and be more present in the conversation. Her speech is really interesting. Time flew by really quickly and, in my opinion, everything she said makes perfect sense. But don’t take my word for it, check it out yourself!

Over to you

Are you someone who listens pretty well or do you think that you need to start listening to others better? And what did you think of the video? Do you agree with what Celeste Headlee had to say? Do you plan on following her tips? Please, let me know what you think!

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4 thoughts on “10 Basic Rules To Help You Listen Better And Have Amazing Conversations (VIDEO)

  1. Hi, Nataly

    You are right Sherry’s points are very useful. The outstanding for me is “be presence”. When we open our mouth, our brains should not have any thing to think about.

    In addition, the conversation is not about me,but the opposite party.

    Thanks for presenting the video.

    Have a nice Friday!

    Stella Chiu

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    1. Hi Stella,

      I’m so glad you liked Celeste’s presentation. And you’re so right, the most important thing when you’re in a conversation with someone is to “be present”. There’s a lot to learn in this video!

      Thanks for taking the time to comment! Have a great Sunday! 🙂

      ~Nataly

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  2. This is awesome Nataly. It’s something we all could learn from.

    Celeste started off talking about extremes and balance. I couldn’t agree more. Everyone has an opinion – and we’re a divided population. It doesn’t matter about what. Every topic drifts to one extreme or another. To truly sit back and listen to someone, you’ll discover that underneath it all, most of us want the same things but don’t know how to go about it.

    Our beliefs train us to think we’re right, so instead of engaging in mature and adult discussions, it’s about converting others to our way of thinking.

    Fully listening to another, unfortunately, takes effort when we’re caught up in our own world. I spent the better part of my life being that way – and while I’m cognizant of it now and have made it a point to be more conscious about truly listening, I’ll admit that sometimes, I still interrupt. The difference now is I catch it quickly and feel the embarrassment immediately when I do it. I’ve also had to become mindful about when I go off topic and take too long to make a point (rambling).

    It’s really about stepping out of your head – your world and being aware of others and your surroundings.

    Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. Hey Dana,

      I thought you would like Celeste’s video! And yes, the rules that she demonstrates are all something we could learn from.

      I’m also not surprised to hear that you are like me: inclined to interrupt and wanting to push our ideas on the other person. Like I said in my post, I I was like that when I was young, but I tried to fight it all my life. The reason why I’m saying that I’m not surprised that you’re like me is because we are people who question ourselves about the “big questions” and we always try to improve ourselves, to be a “better person”.

      But the most important thing is that we are aware of what we do wrong and that we try to change. Also, it’s funny to hear you say that you have a tendency to ramble because I do that same thing!

      Thanks for stopping by gf! Happy Sunday! 🙂

      ~Nataly

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